In a subject like misbehaving in public there is a lot to observe more than to dare to say. I was reading an article called Are you a Misbehaving Parent?. It is talking about how parent misbehave with their children in public resturant, that is a place in which the familly should gather and relax. But the fact is it is the opposit, it is a place to fill your physical needs of being hungry for those kind of parents.
However, I do work in a resturant and I felt what this writer mean by talking about those parents, in my opinion, those parents who think for a momoent they do own their kids. I would tell those parent no one own his kids, but our obligation in this life toward our kids is to raise them in a nice and good way, also to prepare them to grow in good manners too.
For example one day I was serving a familly of one father with one doughter maybe she is 6 years old, with son maybe 8 years old and another son maybe 13 years old. However, the dad was in a hearry I was not and I was so patient because I saw the dad under some stress, the dad welling not to delay the line behind him so what he did worse than delaying the line he pull his son of 13 years old ear and screem "can not see me busy with your brother help me and order to your sister, can't you understand". Here the boy's face turned red and I got that time a lot of bad emotions, maybe symbathy to this young gentelman, maybe angry from this father. It took me soconed what to do at least to solve this problem for this 13 years old, immediatly I talk to the father that my freind can help you and I will help your son. So I started in purpose using a very proffessional wards showing too much respect to him and I asked him very gently "Sir, take your time I am not in a harry, what can I get for you" He looked at me as wonderring is she is talking to me? Is she telling me Sir? I took my time to serve him in a very good way and tried to jock with him showing him I am not in a harry. That day has gone. But the picture still stick in my mind every time I see these things infront of me.
For myself I am thinking as a future teacher I am going to work hard to build behave people. Because I do beleive of the power of education to solve some of our society problems. Those problems that no one can solve just because they are parents.
For those who is interested please visit the following site to read more about Are You a Mibehaving Parent? And I ask everybody to think for a moment what we do else as adults with misbehaving sometime?
http://johnplaceonline.com/relationships/are-you-a-misbehaving-parent/
However, I do work in a resturant and I felt what this writer mean by talking about those parents, in my opinion, those parents who think for a momoent they do own their kids. I would tell those parent no one own his kids, but our obligation in this life toward our kids is to raise them in a nice and good way, also to prepare them to grow in good manners too.
For example one day I was serving a familly of one father with one doughter maybe she is 6 years old, with son maybe 8 years old and another son maybe 13 years old. However, the dad was in a hearry I was not and I was so patient because I saw the dad under some stress, the dad welling not to delay the line behind him so what he did worse than delaying the line he pull his son of 13 years old ear and screem "can not see me busy with your brother help me and order to your sister, can't you understand". Here the boy's face turned red and I got that time a lot of bad emotions, maybe symbathy to this young gentelman, maybe angry from this father. It took me soconed what to do at least to solve this problem for this 13 years old, immediatly I talk to the father that my freind can help you and I will help your son. So I started in purpose using a very proffessional wards showing too much respect to him and I asked him very gently "Sir, take your time I am not in a harry, what can I get for you" He looked at me as wonderring is she is talking to me? Is she telling me Sir? I took my time to serve him in a very good way and tried to jock with him showing him I am not in a harry. That day has gone. But the picture still stick in my mind every time I see these things infront of me.
For myself I am thinking as a future teacher I am going to work hard to build behave people. Because I do beleive of the power of education to solve some of our society problems. Those problems that no one can solve just because they are parents.
For those who is interested please visit the following site to read more about Are You a Mibehaving Parent? And I ask everybody to think for a moment what we do else as adults with misbehaving sometime?
http://johnplaceonline.com/relationships/are-you-a-misbehaving-parent/
This was a great post. I am a waitress, and I wait on a lot of families, and I too see good children and misbehaved children. Usually when a child is misbehaving I totally ignore them. They are not my responsibility, and if the parents want to continue to let them misbehave, it is only a reflection on the parents. When I become a parent I hope that my children behave well. My parents taught me at a very young age that if you act up, there will be consequences. I hope that I can instill those teachings in my children. You do not have to yell at them in public, but you can take them to the restroom, and tell them that acting like that in public is not acceptable.
ReplyDeleteMy mom and I were in Pizza Hut one time eating, and a young couple came in with their child who was about 2 or 3 years old. The parents looked like they just got out of high school. They were being very loud, and if the child cried, they would tell her to shut up, which is not a word we use in my household, and I am 23 years old. The father started feeding the child red pepper flakes, and she began to scream and cry, and all's he did was laugh about it. My mom was appalled and she knew she should not get in the middle, but the child clearly was in pain, because it kept continuously feeding them too her. My mom was about to get up, even though I told her she should not get in the middle, and another elderly lady got up and went to that table. She told the parents that she would more than gladly feed the child the proper food, if they would like to have a meal by themselves. The mother looked angry, but I think she finally realized that the entire restaurant was looking at them, and she told her husband to stop, and she told the elderly lady that there would be no more problems. The child was not misbehaving, but the parent was causing her to cry which made everyone look at them. Parents can misbehave too, and sometimes I think we need to look at both the parent and the child before we think the child is misbehaving.
I agree with both of you. I'm also a waitress and have felt angry or embarrassed on both sides, for the parent and for the children. I think one of my biggest pet peeves as a server is when the parents don't keep their children under control. If you believe your child is mature enough to go out to eat, you should be able to prove they are that mature. I remember when I was young, my brother and I would get into a huge amount of trouble if we misbehaved. My mom always said that the waitress would trip and fall and spill hot coffee on us if we didn't control ourselves, and I actually almost did that very thing once when some bratty little kid was running around my busy restaurant in the middle of a dinner rush. I've also see the parents borderline abuse their children at the dinner table, screaming at them for nothing. I once had a little boy spill his drink, and as I was laughing and smiling at him to ensure him that I wasn't at all upset, the father reached across the table and hit him on his head. I assured that the violence wasn't necessary, that accidents do happen, and that I spilled things all the time. The man told me that of course I spilled things, but hopefully his son would stop spilling things because he wasn't going to end up serving other people in a restaurant. The family was escorted out shortly after that comment. I was heartbroken to watch the boy leave with that malicious man, I wanted so badly to take him home with me instead.
ReplyDeleteI agree with all three of you. My experience was worse than at a restaurant, it was at the movie theater. I truly believe that if your child is not mature enough to be at the movies, DON'T TAKE THEM. I think that it is so rude for a parent with out of control children to a quiet theater that is filled with mature adults who paid to be there. As a young child, I was very mature and I went to the movies with my mother all of the time. My uncle tried taking three of my cousins and myself to the movies once and my older cousin was loud and throwing popcorn at others. Instead of him doing something about it, he laughed like it was funny. I can honestly say I would snap on a parent if they were encouraging and allowing this type of behavior towards me. When I was young it was funny, but now as I look back at the situation I realize that my uncle should have disciplined him or took us home.
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